Whew…..2021- My Year End Review

Wow…Can you believe that 2021 has already come to an end? On one hand, it seems like it just started and then on the other hand, it seems like it has gone on forever. 2021, much like 2020, was a year of learning for me, a year of some regret as well as a year of personal growth and development. There was so much about this year that I really do not want to go back and repeat.

I started off this year with several goals and objectives. I know you are wondering if I accomplished any of my goals this year. Yes…I did accomplish some of them but not all of them. For the goals that I did not accomplish, I am able to move them into my 2022 goals. For those that I did accomplish, the result was what I was desiring. I was behind in defining my goals and vision casting this year. I was well into Q1 before I finally sat down and defined my goals and vision for the year. I can only wonder what this year would have been like if I had started off at the beginning of January instead of the beginning of March.


This year I developed a budget and was able to stick pretty close to that budget. Ending the year in the black instead of the red is always a positive.


This year was a very tough one for our family. From spending months in the hospital, burying loved ones, to surrendering my parental rights to my 2 oldest kids (future blog post), being diagnosed with skin cancer. We have been through the ringer this year as a family.


This year has testing my faith greater than any other year in my life. I still struggle daily with understanding God and why seemingly bad things happen to good people, while good things happen to bad people. I am learning to trust God again and trust that He knows the perfect plan.


I am not done well with this goal this year. I did accomplish some fitness goals but not near what I had defined for this year.


This year has been a challenging year for me in this area. I did not come close to hitting my goals in the area. There was a lot of factors that played a role in this.

Personal Development/Growth:

This year started off really well in this area. I was able to develop several key habits that propelled my growth and development this year. I hired a life coach. I stated reading again. I read over 1000 pages this year. I defined a new life vision that guides everything that I do.

This are just a few areas that I review and address in my year end review. I take several days to review this past year and cast vision and set goals for the year to come. This next year, I will also do quarterly reviews in order to make sure that I am still on the correct trajectory for 2022. My hashtag for 2022 is #growyouin22

Are you currently doing a year end review? What does your process look like? If you are not doing one, what is keeping you from doing a year end review? What resources are you planning to use in 2022?

-Because People Matter


Reading List for 2021

2021 Reading List

“Not All Readers Are Leaders, But All Leaders Are Readers”-Harry S Truman

I really like this quote from Harry S Truman.

I have not always been a big reader however several years ago, I accepted a personal growth challenge to start reading more and ever since then I have literally been addicted to reading.

I initially started reading books on a Kindle but this past year, I really struggled with not having an actual book in my hand so I retired the Kindle and started ordering the actual book. There is something to say about holding an actual book in your hand and having the ability to highlight information on the pages of that boook.

What is on your reading list? What would you add? Would you drop anything from the above list?

Because People Matter


Direction or Speed, What Matters Most?

What is direction? Dictionary.com defines it as “a course along which someone or something moves.” When I think about direction, I think about a destination. A starting point and an ending point. An end goal in mind.

Dictionary.com defines speed as the rate at which someone or something is able to move or operate. Speed does not take into account anything else. You can go very fast without regard to direction or where you are going.

I was talking with a co-worker last week who was discouraged with her weight loss journey. She had not lost the amount of weight that she had wanted within the time frame she wanted. I reminded her that the most important part of meeting her goal was making sure that she was going in the right direction. She was losing weight, maybe not as fast as she wanted but she was in the right direction of losing weight.

Many times we get so focused on something that we get more caught up with the speed rather than the direction. Many people are going nowhere fast because they are more concerned with speed than direction.

Remember that no matter where you are in life, no matter what task you are completing or goal you are meeting, Direction is more important than speed. Getting to the right destination is better than getting to the wrong destination quickly.

Because People Matter


Routines: Morning vs. Night

Are you a night-owl or a morning riser? Let’s be honest, everyone of us is one or the other. We either stay up late at night and are hard to rise in the morning, or we are early to be and early to rise.

For most of my life, aside from my time in the military, I was a night-owl and hated mornings. I kept the snooze button handy and would have 5-6 alarms set so that I could snooze to the very last minute. What i continually faced was unplanned days and unfinished task/goal lists. At the beginning of 2020, I decided that I was going to make a change to be more intentional with my life. I studied some of who I consider the most successful people and I found that all of them had a few things in common, but the most common was that each of them had a regular morning routine.

What is a morning routine? A morning routine is essentially a set of actions you perform in the morning, usually before starting your day’s main activity like going to work or to school. The actions can be anything from drinking a glass of water or brushing your teeth to doing a two-hour workout or running around the block and more. I sat down and wrote out what I wanted to accomplish in my morning before I started work or before it was time to get everyone else in the house up for the day. What tasks, what goals were most important?.

Early on when I first started my morning routine, I was struggling to get up and get it going. What i discovered was that I was setting my self up for failure due to what I was doing each night before. I would stay up late each night. I was going to bed with my phone or ipad and browsing Facebook, Instagram or the internet. I was doing this until I was exhausted and falling asleep with my phone in my hand. Then when the alarm would go off at 5am, I would just continue to hit snooze. I knew that something had to change.

I quickly figured out that in order to have a successful morning routine, I need a nightly routine as well. Once I put a nightly routine in place, I was able to have a successful morning routine.

I will share in more details what my nightly and morning routines look like in a later post. But first, Do you have a morning routine? What does it look like? What have you found to be most helpful in staying on task with you morning routine?

Because People Matter,


The Entrepreneur Mindset


When faced with a challenge, overcoming fear, or coming back from a “failure,” successful people are focused on growth more than they fixate on the outcome of failure. (Trick: when feeling letdown, reflect by writing 3 things that went wrong in the process and how you plan to fix them next time.)- Carol Dweck “Mindsets”

Mental Illness is no JOKEr

Last night we went to see the new JOKER movie. I am not one who likes to frequent the dark movie theater but I was interested in this movie and was actually excited to see it.

Mental Health is a huge problem in our society today. It comes in all shapes and sizes. This movie really brings to light many key points in regards to mental illness. I am going to share a few of my take aways with you.

1. Mental illness is non discriminatory-It does not care about your age, race, sex or social status. It can effect anyone.

2. Mental illness comes in all shapes and sizes- It effects people in different ways.

3. Mental illness is not always visible on the outside-Many times you will never see the mental illness that someone else is struggling with.

4. Those who suffer with mental illness are not freaks or clowns- They are mothers, wives, sons and daughters.

5. Our healthcare systems has failed those with mental illness-Our healthcare systems are actually causing more harm by prescribing all kinds of medications and then kicking them back out on the streets without seeking the root of the mental illness cause.

6. Telling someone to “get over it” actually causes more harm then good. It’s not as easy as just “putting on a happy face.”

There are several more take aways that I could share from this movie. I would encourage you to go and watch it. I will say this movie is not okay for children. Once you watch it, feel free to share your thoughts.

Because People Matter.


September Reading List


I am currently reading “Visioneering: God’s Blueprint for Developing and Maintaining Vision” by Andy Stanley.  This book is packed full of principles and practical “how to’s”  that will help you develop and maintain a personal vision.  I am excited to get to the end of the book and then apply the principles to my personal and family vision.

What are you reading this month?  What do you recommend?

Helping People Pursue Jesus!!!




I believe that we are better when we are together. I believe this so strongly that we are building it into the DNA of our family vision. I challenge and encourage everyone to join a Home Group—a gathering of friends centered around fellowship, Bible study and discussion, and focused prayer. A wise man once said,  “People aren’t looking for a friendly church; they are looking for friends.” I believe that’s true, and I encourage you to be a part of a home group.  If you desire authentic community, I encourage you to contact me and find out how you can connect through our Home Groups, each person in our community can engage in stimulating conversations as they fall into a circle of friends.

Helping People Pursue Jesus!


“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17, NIV)

How to Survive Daylight Savings!


Already mourning lost sleep from this morning? Most people will sleep about 40 minutes less on Sunday night after daylight saving time returns, bad news for the 47 million American who are already sleep-deprived. But those aren’t the only impacts it can have on your health.

You’re more likely to have a heart attack
In the three days after we spring forward, we’re five percent more likely to have a heart attack, according to a study in The New England Journal of Medicine. Another study found a jump as big as 25 percent. One possible explanation is that sleep deprivation releases stress hormones that increase inflammation, causing complications in those already at higher risk of having a heart attack. The good news? Our risk falls by 21 percent when daylight saving time ends in November.

Your performance suffers
It can be tough enough to guzzle enough coffee to function at the office on Monday mornings, and you can expect tomorrow morning to be even harder. A 2012 study in the Journal of Applied Psychology found that we spend more time online on non-work related websites the first Monday after daylight saving time starts than on the Mondays before or after it. There’s also over a five percent jump in workplace accidents that Monday.

Your sleep efficiency is lower
The impact of daylight saving time on our sleep quality goes beyond a lost hour. Researchers say that sleep efficiency—the ratio of time you spend actually sleeping compared to the amount of time you spend in bed—is disrupted for as long as a week or more after we spring forward. One study found that sleep time is reduced by up to an hour a day for five days following the change—and it’s especially tough on night owls.

 How to Deal:

Adjusting to the time change is different for everyone. Some people adjust in a few days; for others, it takes more time.

Wake up early. Exposing yourself to the bright light in the morning will help you adjust. After a dark winter season, the sun may seem harsh at first.

Don’t Take Naps. Avoiding naps is key for adjusting to the time change. Try not to take naps, If you have to take them, take them early and for no longer than 20 minutes.

Long naps are a sign of sleep deprivation and other underlying health issues. Research says short naps improve brain function, leaving you refreshed afterward.

Avoid Coffee and Caffeinated Drinks. Avoid coffee and caffeinated beverages four to six hours before bedtime.

It’s also important to follow good sleep hygiene habits

Turn off the House of Cards marathon. Power down distractions like the TV, cell phone, and laptop well before bedtime—the blue light they emit suppress melatonin secretion, disrupting sleep.

What are you doing to help adjust to daylight savings time and springing forward one hour?

Because People Matter