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So God Made A Father

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The following poem was written by May Patterson. I want to share this and say Happy Fathers Day to all the fathers out there!!!

And God looked down on all He had made and said, “Now, I need a caretaker.”

So, God made a father.

God said, “I need someone to take children fishing and play catch in the backyard. It must be someone who is tough enough to run a chainsaw and wield a machete and yet, gentle enough to join his little girl and her dolls for tea.”

“I need someone to bring the car around when it’s raining, so everyone else can stay dry. Someone who will keep jumper cables in his truck, just in case he needs to help a stranger. I need someone to notice practical things, like how the tread on the tires is wearing and if the weather stripping around the front door needs replacing, for no one else will.”

“Yes, he will struggle to find his socks and keys. But I’ll help him find time for the important things, like tumbling with the kids in the den floor, or saying ‘I’m proud of you, son,’ or giving Mama a hug.”

So God made a father.

God thought, “I need someone to provide for the family. Someone who will get up early and stay up late and never complain. I need someone who’s willing to make unpopular decisions and stand by them. Someone to provide authority and discipline, as well as love.”

“I need someone who listens more than he talks. Who will stand by his family through laughter and tears, tornadoes and snowstorms, good times and bad. Someone who will love his kids and love their mother even more.”

“I need someone who is willing to carve the Thanksgiving turkey, for no one else seems to want the job.”

“I’ll make someone who’s not afraid to go into Grandma’s dark cellar, or to check on what goes bump in the night, or to remove the dead mouse from the mousetrap. Someone who will yank a child back from the path of a speeding car and who will keep a wary eye on strangers.”

“I’ll give him broad shoulders, broad enough to carry a little child around town and broad enough to pull more than his fair share.”

So God made a father.

God said, “I need someone who’s strong enough to open a tightly sealed jelly jar and someone who’s tall enough to place the angel on top of the Christmas tree. And yet, I need someone who is gracious enough to let his son fish the best fishing hole or to let his daughter win at least one hand of gin rummy.”

“Yes, I need someone who is willing to work the second-shift, or take second-best, or play second fiddle, so that his family can have it better than he did.”

“I need someone who’s willing . . . willing to man up and provide the love, support and strength his family will so desperately need.”

So, God made a father.

-May Patterson

He is the first hero a little child will ever know.

His influence lasts much longer than his life.

The Lord created fathers to be a living, breathing display of who He is: a protector, a provider and a leader. And while some earthly fathers fail, many strive to live out God’s plan for fatherhood, even though it’s a pretty tall order.

Consider what God asks fathers to do:

Provide for their families (1 Tim. 5:8)

Love sacrificially (Eph. 5:25-33)

Teach their children about the Lord (Eph. 6:4)

Encourage their children (Col. 3:21)

Talk about God’s word, often (Deut. 6:6-9)

Appreciate their children (Ps. 127:3-5)

Guide their families in serving the Lord (Josh. 24:15)

Set a good example (Prov. 20:7)

Love their children enough to discipline them (Prov. 13:24; 19:18)

Lead their families as Christ leads the church (Eph. 5:23)

Because Fathers Matter-

-K

Leading When You’re Not in Charge: Unlocking Your Leadership Potential

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Leadership is not confined to titles or positions of authority. In fact, some of the most influential leaders are those who inspire and guide others without holding formal power. Whether you’re an individual contributor, a team member, or a new employee, you have the opportunity to lead and make a positive impact. Today, we will explore the concept of leading when you’re not in charge and provide strategies to unlock your leadership potential in any situation.

  1. Embrace Ownership and Accountability: Leadership begins with taking ownership and accountability for your work and actions. Regardless of your position, approach your tasks and responsibilities with a sense of ownership and strive for excellence. Take initiative, go above and beyond, and consistently deliver high-quality results. By demonstrating accountability, you inspire trust and influence others to follow your lead.
  2. Lead by Example: Actions speak louder than words, and leading by example is a powerful way to influence those around you. Show integrity, professionalism, and a strong work ethic in everything you do. Be reliable, punctual, and exhibit a positive attitude even in challenging situations. Your behavior sets the standard for others, and they will be inspired to follow suit.
  3. Foster Collaboration and Support: Leadership is about building relationships and fostering a collaborative environment. Seek opportunities to support your colleagues, offer assistance, and contribute to the success of the team. Actively listen to others, value their input, and encourage diverse perspectives. By creating a culture of collaboration and support, you establish yourself as a trusted and influential leader.
  4. Communicate Effectively: Effective communication is a cornerstone of leadership. Clearly articulate your ideas, opinions, and expectations. Practice active listening to understand the needs and concerns of others. Adapt your communication style to different individuals and situations. Be respectful, empathetic, and approachable in your interactions. By mastering the art of communication, you can bridge gaps, resolve conflicts, and inspire others to take action.
  5. Continuously Learn and Grow: Leadership is a journey of continuous learning and growth. Seek opportunities to expand your knowledge, develop new skills, and stay updated on industry trends. Embrace feedback and use it as a catalyst for improvement. Take on new challenges and step outside your comfort zone. By investing in your personal and professional development, you become a stronger and more influential leader.

Leadership is not defined by a job title or position of authority but by the actions, mindset, and influence we bring to any situation. By embracing ownership, leading by example, fostering collaboration, communicating effectively, and pursuing continuous growth, you can unlock your leadership potential and make a positive impact wherever you are. Remember, leadership is not about being in charge; it’s about inspiring and guiding others towards shared goals. So, step forward, embrace your leadership abilities, and lead with passion, integrity, and purpose, regardless of your formal role.

Because People Matter-

-K

Unlocking the Magic: Keys to a Successful Date Night with Your Spouse

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Date nights provide a valuable opportunity for couples to reconnect, nurture their relationship, and create lasting memories. Whether you’re newlyweds or have been married for years, investing in regular date nights with your spouse is essential for maintaining a strong and thriving partnership. Today, we will explore the keys to a successful date night that will deepen your connection and reignite the spark in your relationship.

  1. Prioritize Quality Time

The first key to a successful date night is to prioritize quality time with your spouse. Set aside dedicated time on a regular basis that is exclusively for the two of you. Treat it as a non-negotiable commitment, just like any other important appointment in your schedule. By intentionally making time for each other, you demonstrate the value you place on your relationship.

  1. Plan and Prepare

Effective planning is crucial for a successful date night. Take turns in planning and preparing for the date to make it a shared responsibility. Discuss your preferences, interests, and ideas to ensure the date aligns with both of your expectations. Consider activities that allow you to connect on a deeper level, such as trying a new restaurant, going for a scenic hike, or enjoying a couples’ spa day.

  1. Unplug and Be Present

One of the keys to a successful date night is to disconnect from distractions and be fully present with your spouse. Put away your phones and focus on each other. Engage in meaningful conversations, actively listen, and show genuine interest in your partner’s thoughts and feelings. By giving your undivided attention, you create an environment that fosters connection and emotional intimacy.

  1. Rediscover Romance

Date nights are an opportunity to reignite the romance in your relationship. Set the mood by creating a romantic ambiance, whether it’s through candlelight, soft music, or creating a cozy atmosphere at home. Surprise your spouse with small gestures of affection, such as a heartfelt note or a special gift. Use the time together to express love and affection, rekindling the passion that brought you together.

  1. Embrace Novelty and Adventure

Spice up your date nights by embracing novelty and adventure. Stepping outside of your comfort zone together can create shared experiences and strengthen your bond. Try new activities, explore new places, or embark on mini-adventures. By introducing variety and excitement, you inject freshness and vibrancy into your relationship.

  1. Laugh and Have Fun

Laughter is the secret ingredient that adds joy and fun to your date nights. Lighten the mood, tell jokes, share funny stories, and engage in playful activities. Embrace a lighthearted approach, and don’t be afraid to let loose and enjoy each other’s company. Laughter not only relieves stress but also creates cherished memories that you’ll fondly remember for years to come.

Successful date nights with your spouse are built upon the foundation of prioritizing quality time, planning and preparation, being present, rediscovering romance, embracing novelty and adventure, and sharing laughter and fun. By unlocking these keys, you will strengthen your connection, deepen your love, and nurture a relationship that continues to thrive.

Make a commitment to incorporate regular date nights into your schedule. Remember, it’s not about the extravagance of the date but the intentionality and effort you put into making it special. Invest in your relationship, nurture your bond, and watch as your love story unfolds with each memorable date night.

Because People Matter-

Because Your Spouse Matters-

-K

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families: Building Stronger Bonds for Lasting Happiness

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In today’s fast-paced and ever-changing world, building and maintaining a strong and harmonious family unit can be a challenging task. However, highly effective families possess certain habits that enable them to navigate challenges, communicate effectively, and create a nurturing environment for each family member to thrive. Today, we will explore the seven habits of highly effective families, which can help build stronger bonds and foster lasting happiness. These 7 habits are taken from Stephen R. Covey book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families: Creating a Nurturing Family in a Turbulent World

Habit 1: Be Proactive – Become an Agent of Change in Your Family

Highly effective families understand that they have the power to shape their own destinies. They take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and relationships. By being proactive, they actively seek ways to improve and positively impact their family dynamics. Rather than reacting to circumstances, proactive families choose their responses and become agents of change within their own households.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind – Know the Type of Family You Want to Be

Highly effective families have a clear vision of the type of family they aspire to become. They set goals, establish values, and define their family’s purpose. By beginning with the end in mind, they align their actions and decisions with their long-term vision. This habit enables them to make choices that contribute to the growth and well-being of the entire family unit.

Habit 3: Put First Things First – Make Family a Priority in a Turbulent World

In the midst of busy schedules and external demands, highly effective families prioritize what truly matters – their family relationships. They allocate time for shared activities, create meaningful traditions, and foster a sense of togetherness. By putting first things first, these families ensure that their bonds remain strong and resilient, even in the face of a rapidly changing world.

Habit 4: Think “Win-Win” – Move from “Me” to “We”

Highly effective families embrace a mindset of cooperation and collaboration. They seek mutually beneficial solutions that address the needs and desires of all family members. By shifting from a “me” mentality to a “we” mentality, they cultivate an atmosphere of respect, empathy, and compromise. This habit fosters a sense of unity, harmony, and shared responsibility within the family.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand…Then Be Understood – Solve Family Problems Through Communication

Effective families prioritize open and empathetic communication. They listen attentively to one another’s perspectives, seeking to understand before seeking to be understood. By creating an environment where all family members feel heard and valued, they are better equipped to resolve conflicts, address concerns, and strengthen their relationships.

Habit 6: Synergize – Build Family Unity While Celebrating Differences

Highly effective families recognize and celebrate the unique strengths, talents, and interests of each family member. They encourage cooperation, collaboration, and shared decision-making. By leveraging the diverse qualities of their members, these families create a sense of unity, harmony, and collective growth. They embrace differences as opportunities for learning and personal development.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw – Renew the Family Spirit Through Traditions

To maintain a strong and vibrant family bond, highly effective families prioritize self-care and renewal. They establish and nurture traditions that promote connection, joy, and shared experiences. By regularly engaging in activities that bring the family together, they create a sense of belonging and rejuvenate the family spirit.

The habits of highly effective families provide a roadmap for building stronger bonds and fostering lasting happiness. By being proactive, envisioning their desired family dynamics, prioritizing meaningful connections, embracing cooperation, practicing empathetic communication, celebrating differences, and renewing the family spirit through traditions, families can create a nurturing

Because People Matter-

-K

Unleashing the Power of Habits: The Significance of a Morning Routine

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We often underestimate the influence of our daily habits and routines on our overall well-being and productivity. Mornings, in particular, provide a unique opportunity to set the tone for the rest of the day. Establishing a morning routine is like laying a strong foundation for success and personal growth. Today, we will delve into the importance of habits and explore the transformative effects of a well-crafted morning routine.

Building the Framework for Success:

Habits form the framework that guides our actions, thoughts, and decisions. By consciously designing a morning routine, we proactively set ourselves up for success. Rather than starting the day in a rushed and reactive manner, a well-planned routine allows us to approach each day with intention and purpose. It creates a sense of control over our time and sets the stage for a productive and fulfilling day ahead.

Harnessing the Power of Consistency:

Consistency is the key to making lasting changes and achieving long-term goals. When we establish a morning routine and stick to it consistently, we cultivate discipline and commitment. Over time, these habits become ingrained in our daily lives, making it easier to maintain our momentum and avoid falling into unproductive patterns. Consistency also builds confidence, as we witness the positive impact of our routines unfold over time.

Enhancing Physical and Mental Well-being:

A well-crafted morning routine can significantly contribute to our physical and mental well-being. Incorporating activities such as exercise, meditation, or journaling into our mornings helps us prioritize self-care and set a positive tone for the day. Physical activity boosts endorphins, improves focus, and enhances overall energy levels. Meanwhile, meditation and mindfulness practices cultivate mental clarity, reduce stress, and promote a sense of calm. By dedicating time to nourishing our bodies and minds, we cultivate a strong foundation for optimal health and personal growth.

Maximizing Productivity and Efficiency:

One of the most significant benefits of a morning routine is its ability to optimize productivity and efficiency. By identifying and prioritizing the most important tasks early in the day, we harness the power of our peak energy and mental focus. Completing essential tasks early on creates a sense of accomplishment and momentum that carries throughout the day, increasing our overall productivity. A morning routine allows us to start each day with a clear purpose and a roadmap, eliminating decision fatigue and setting us up for success.

Cultivating Mindfulness and Gratitude:

In the midst of a fast-paced world, a morning routine provides us with a valuable opportunity to slow down, cultivate mindfulness, and practice gratitude. Whether it’s through meditation, journaling, or simply taking a few moments of solitude, a morning routine encourages us to connect with ourselves and our surroundings. By setting aside time for self-reflection, we become more aware of our thoughts, emotions, and desires. This awareness enables us to make conscious choices throughout the day and fosters a deeper sense of gratitude for the present moment.

The significance of habits and a well-crafted morning routine cannot be overstated. By establishing intentional habits and routines, we take charge of our lives and pave the way for personal growth, success, and overall well-being. Embrace the power of consistency, prioritize self-care, and unleash the potential within you through a mindful and purposeful morning routine. Start each day with intention, and watch as your life transforms one morning at a time

Because People Matter-

-K

Unlocking Your Potential: Essential Tips for Personal Growth

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Personal growth is a lifelong journey that allows us to evolve, learn, and reach our fullest potential. It is an ongoing process of self-discovery, self-improvement, and self-awareness. Today, we will explore essential tips that can help you embark on a transformative path of personal growth and unlock new levels of fulfillment and success in various aspects of your life.

Cultivate a Growth Mindset:

A growth mindset is the foundation of personal growth. Embrace the belief that you have the capacity to learn, change, and develop your skills and abilities. Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth, see failures as learning experiences, and view feedback as constructive guidance. Embracing a growth mindset opens doors to continuous learning and improvement.

Set Clear and Meaningful Goals:

Goal-setting is a powerful tool for personal growth. Set clear, specific, and meaningful goals that align with your values and aspirations. Break them down into smaller, actionable steps to make them more achievable. Regularly review and adjust your goals to ensure they remain relevant and motivating. Setting goals gives you direction, purpose, and a sense of accomplishment as you make progress towards them.

Embrace Continuous Learning:

Never stop learning. Seek knowledge and experiences that expand your horizons. Read books, take courses, attend seminars, and engage in activities that challenge you intellectually and emotionally. Cultivate curiosity, ask questions, and be open to new perspectives. Embracing a lifelong learning mindset enhances personal growth and keeps you adaptable in an ever-changing world.

Step Out of Your Comfort Zone:

Growth occurs outside of your comfort zone. Challenge yourself by taking calculated risks and embracing new experiences. Pushing beyond familiar boundaries opens up opportunities for self-discovery and personal development. Whether it’s trying a new hobby, taking on a leadership role, or speaking in public, the growth that comes from venturing outside your comfort zone is invaluable.

Nurture Self-Care and Well-being:

Personal growth goes hand in hand with self-care and well-being. Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. Prioritize activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as regular exercise, sufficient sleep, healthy eating, and mindfulness practices. Engage in activities that bring you joy and reduce stress. When you prioritize self-care, you create a solid foundation for personal growth and overall well-being.

Surround Yourself with Positive Influences:

The people you surround yourself with greatly impact your personal growth journey. Seek out relationships and connections with individuals who inspire and support your goals. Surround yourself with positive influences, mentors, and role models who uplift and challenge you. Engage in communities and networks that foster growth and encourage personal development. Their support, guidance, and feedback can accelerate your growth and provide valuable insights.

Reflect and Practice Self-Reflection:

Regular self-reflection is a powerful tool for personal growth. Set aside time for introspection, journaling, or meditation. Reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and experiences. Consider your strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement. Celebrate your achievements and acknowledge areas where growth is needed. Self-reflection helps you gain self-awareness, make better choices, and cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself.

Personal growth is a continuous journey of self-discovery, learning, and improvement. By cultivating a growth mindset, setting clear goals, embracing continuous learning, stepping out of your comfort zone, nurturing self-care and well-being, surrounding yourself with positive influences, and practicing self-reflection, you unlock your potential and embark on a transformative path towards personal growth.

Embrace the journey with enthusiasm and patience, for the possibilities for growth and self-improvement are limitless. Each step you take towards personal growth brings you closer to living a more fulfilling, purpose-driven life.

Because People Matter-

-K

Parallels between Golf and Productivity: A Hole-in-One Approach to Living a Fulfilling Life

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Golf, often hailed as a gentleman’s game, is not only a sport but also a microcosm of life itself. Beyond the well-manicured greens and competitive spirit lies a multitude of lessons that can be applied to our pursuit of living a productive and fulfilling life. Let’s explore the remarkable parallels between golf and productivity, highlighting how the principles and mindset cultivated on the golf course can positively impact our daily lives.

1. Goal Setting and Strategy:

Just as a golfer assesses the course and strategizes before each shot, living a productive life requires setting clear goals and formulating strategies to achieve them. Golfers visualize their shots, plan their approach, and adapt to changing conditions. Similarly, by defining our aspirations, breaking them into manageable steps, and adjusting our plans as needed, we can navigate life’s challenges and make progress towards our objectives.

2. Focus and Mindfulness:

In golf, concentration and mindfulness are essential for success. A golfer needs to be fully present in the moment, focusing on each swing with precision. Similarly, living a productive life requires us to cultivate mindfulness, directing our attention to the task at hand and minimizing distractions. By immersing ourselves in the present, we can enhance our productivity, make better decisions, and fully engage with our surroundings.

3. Resilience and Adaptability:

Golfers often face unpredictable elements such as wind, rough terrain, or unexpected hazards. Similarly, in life, we encounter unforeseen obstacles and setbacks. Golf teaches us the importance of resilience and adaptability. A golfer must maintain composure, analyze the situation, and adjust their strategy accordingly. Likewise, approaching life’s challenges with resilience, flexibility, and a growth mindset allows us to bounce back, learn from setbacks, and forge ahead towards our goals.

4. Patience and Perseverance:

Golf is a game of patience and perseverance. It requires a golfer to endure numerous swings, setbacks, and missed shots while remaining focused on the ultimate goal. Likewise, living a productive life demands patience and persistence. Success rarely comes overnight, and setbacks are inevitable. By embracing a patient and tenacious mindset, we can maintain our motivation, learn from failures, and steadily progress towards our desired outcomes.

5. Balance and Well-being:

Golf emphasizes the importance of balance and well-being. A golfer’s performance can be greatly influenced by physical fitness, mental clarity, and emotional well-being. Similarly, living a productive life involves maintaining a harmonious balance between work, personal life, self-care, and pursuing passions. Prioritizing our physical and mental health, nurturing relationships, and finding time for rejuvenation enhances our overall productivity and satisfaction.

The game of golf offers valuable insights into living a productive and fulfilling life. As we navigate the fairways and hazards of life, the principles of goal setting, focus, resilience, patience, and balance serve as guiding beacons. Embracing the mindset of a golfer can empower us to approach challenges with grace, adapt to changing circumstances, and consistently strive for improvement. So, tee up, take a swing, and discover how the game of golf can shape your approach to living a productive life.

The Importance of a Night Routine: Setting the Stage for a Successful Day

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We often hear about the significance of a morning routine in starting the day right. However, equally important is a night routine that sets the foundation for a restful night’s sleep and a productive day ahead. Lets explore the importance of a night routine and how it can positively impact your overall well-being and daily performance.

  1. Promotes Quality Sleep: A well-structured night routine plays a crucial role in ensuring a good night’s sleep. By establishing consistent sleep and wake-up times, you regulate your body’s internal clock, helping you fall asleep faster and wake up refreshed. Incorporating relaxation techniques such as reading, meditation, or a warm bath before bed can also signal to your body that it’s time to unwind and prepare for sleep.
  2. Reduces Evening Stress: A night routine provides an opportunity to wind down and release the stress accumulated throughout the day. Engaging in activities that promote relaxation, such as journaling, practicing gratitude, or gentle stretching, can help calm the mind and release tension in the body. This transition from work or daily responsibilities to a state of relaxation allows you to detach from stressors and cultivate a peaceful mindset.
  3. Enhances Productivity and Preparation: A well-planned night routine allows you to set yourself up for success the following day. Taking a few minutes to review your schedule, prioritize tasks, and organize your workspace can help you feel more prepared and in control. This proactive approach reduces morning decision-making and allows you to dive into your day with focus and clarity, increasing productivity and reducing potential stressors.
  4. Cultivates Self-Care and Personal Growth: A night routine provides dedicated time for self-care and personal growth. Whether it’s engaging in a hobby, reading a book, practicing mindfulness, or reflecting on your day, these activities contribute to your overall well-being. By making self-care a priority in your night routine, you replenish your energy, nurture your passions, and invest in personal development.
  5. Supports Consistency and Routine Habits: Humans thrive on consistency and routine. A night routine establishes a structure that promotes healthy habits. By consistently following a set of evening rituals, you create a sense of stability and familiarity. This consistency helps regulate your body’s internal rhythms, improves sleep quality, and increases overall well-being.

A well-crafted night routine is a powerful tool for optimizing your sleep, reducing stress, and preparing for a successful day ahead. By prioritizing quality sleep, managing stress, fostering relaxation, and engaging in self-care, you set the stage for improved well-being, increased productivity, and personal growth. Remember, a night routine is unique to you and should be tailored to your needs and preferences. Experiment with different activities and find what works best for you. So, embrace the importance of a night routine, and let it be a guiding light as you cultivate a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle.

What does your nightly routine look like?

Because People Matter,

-K

Quit Being Lazy

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Men….I am talking to you. I know that 2020 was an unprecedented year, unlike anything we have been through. But that is no excuse. I know because I have fallen in that trap as well. The truth is that our wives need us. They need us now probably more than ever.

Over the next several days, maybe weeks, I want to share about marriage. Last year, I committed to Jessica that we would attend a marriage retreat at least once every quarter. Not because we needed it but because we wanted it. There is something about attending an intimate weekend marriage retreat with your spouse that can not be replicated.

Unfortunately, we were not able to attend any last year due to the pandemic. I am not sure about Jess but I know that I could feel it. I could actually feel the effects of not attending a conference last year. But we are finally able to attend a conference this month. We are excited to attend Romance Uncovered this year and hope to make it one of our yearly conferences to attend.

Leading up to our conference in a couple weeks, I want to share 10 tips to effectively date your spouse. These are tips that I have learned and believe they can greatly improve your married, dating life. I hate to admit it but I struggle with effectively dating my spouse as well. I will share 1 tip a day for the next 10 days.

  1. Do not be lazy. Think. Prepare. Act. Dating your spouse takes planning. It takes thoughtful preparation. Think back to before you were married, How much time and effort did you put into planning each and every date you went on? I would venture to bet that you have not put that much planning into a date night with your spouse since you have been married.

The craving of a sluggard will be the death of him,
    because his hands refuse to work. – Proverbs 21:25

When it comes to working on our marriage relationships so they grow stronger, too many of us treat it with a “whatever…” attitude. But realize:

“Love is a choice. So choose to love your spouse well. Remember that they are not the same person they were when you met them. Nor are you. So while you may think you know a lot about them, there may be new things to discover if you have the courage to go there.” (Mark Merrill)

And it does take courage. It also takes gumption and grit to challenge yourself when you’ve let yourself fall into the trap of marital complacency. Additionally, you will need to get to a place of “mindfulness.” You will need a “made up mind” in order to fight a lazy marriage attitude.

“Dr. John Gottman states that ‘couples often ignore each other’s emotional needs out of mindlessness, not malice.’ So, if you absentmindedly leave laundry on the floor or dirty dishes in the sink, it most likely isn’t with malicious intent. In fact, there probably isn’t any intent on your part, but rather a lack of mindfulness about your partner’s needs to have a clean house, which could lead to a conflict. To minimize or avoid that conflict, practice daily mindfulness about what your partner needs from you.” (The Gottman Institute

So this is a wakeup call to all of us. Are you (are we) ready to mix things up a bit? Look for ways to bless your spouse. Ask him or her if there is anything you can do within the next few days that will bless them.

That will certainly wake up him or her. It could actually introduce excitement. They may be confused for a few moments. But after they shake off the confusion, they could get quite excited. It’s like, “What do you mean? Is this a trick question? Do you mean I didn’t have to nag, or push at you to do this?” THAT’S a blessing in itself, but don’t stop there. Actually do what they ask of you.

And then look for other ways to take your marriage to a new level. Flirt with your spouse. Keep in mind that your marriage CAN be crippled by apathy. It can also die from boredom. Don’t let this happen. Look for ways to stir things up (in pleasant ways). You did this when you were dating each other. Just make a point of looking for ways to do this now that you are married.

There is still time to sign up to join us in Branson at the end of this month for Romance Uncensored. Click on the link here to sign up.

Because Your Spouse Matters

Kris

Men…Lets Be Honest.

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Men…Let’s be honest. 2020 was not our year. We made excuses as to why we could not complete our goals. We failed in our priorities. We failed to lead as we were called to do. As we look back, we can see that in nearly every aspect of our lives, 2020 had some sort of impact, mostly negative I am sure. What is ironic about last year being 2020 is that 20/20 signifies perfect vision. When it comes to our vision and eye sight, we all want 20/20 and we want to be able to achieve that without any sort of corrective lenses. But the truth is that many of us still need corrective lenses to achieve 20/20 vision.

My goal for 2021 this year is to grow in many facets of my life this year. I hope to grow more as a

husband

father

entrepreneur

friend

mentor

In order to achieve that growth, I am developing a Growth Plan for 2021. I am not sure yet what it will look like. I hope that it will include some type of mentorship with other men for accountability.

A growth plan is a kind of a guideline, that helps to show the skills one needs to acquire and the goals one needs to achieve by changing the way of your life in a positive direction. Besides, planning about the future gives you better control over their life. Also, it helps to guide them on days when they feel demotivated and down. Having a personal growth plan helps in finding out how effective one is in their everyday life. 

If you would be interested in being a part of a mentorship/accountability group, let me know.

Because People Matter,

Kris